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HOW TO LET GO OF YOUR PAST?: 8 EFFICIENT WAYS FOR INNER HEALING.

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I realize there’s something incredibly honest about trees in winter, how they’re experts at letting things go. -Jeffrey McDaniel

The last thing we would ever want to think about is the era of agonizing pain, the phase of constant doubts, forgotten tracks, misleading friend circles, uncertain decisions, and backstabbed tales. 

Letting go of one's past might be challenging. However, it is not a state where anyone cannot reach or attain and lead a peaceful and healthy living thereafter.

Adopting healthy habits and staying close to your inner true self can open doors to enlightening paths or in other words a bright future.

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Is your past still haunting you?

Think of the situations where you lost track of yourself or the outside world. The situations where you burst out of anger or encounter an emotional breakdown.

Sometimes we won't be aware of what is happening deep inside ourselves. Whatever feeling or urge you are stimulated by might not even be true. We get deceived by our own selves often. However, the key to all these strange feelings and unsolved conundrums lies in the root of our problems and our experiences in our early days of living. Just like breaking the tree's main trunk for its dense and thickly grown vines shadowing the entire light source, identifying the root cause for all this suffering aftermath gives you a better perspective and a new hope of solving your problems.

Ask yourself whether you truly need to suffer hovering over your past throughout the end of your life? Come on, it is time to move on!!

Think about the traumatizing situation in which you are putting yourself and the entire negative influence of it on your day-to-day activities. You don't deserve even an inch of it.

Believe me, a new beginning awaits!

Embrace yourself as you channel through the hardest phases of your life with these potential ways for a better and brighter beginning!

 You’ve got to make a conscious choice every day to shed the old – whatever “the old” means for you. -Sarah Ban Breathnach

 1. Let yourselves face the situation:

When we face the worst that can happen in any situation, we grow. When circumstances are at their worst, we can find our best.

Showing the audacity to face the suffering shows that you are emotionally strong and also your readiness to accept the truth and row forward in life. Never let yourself walk down the memory lane of your horrendous past once you are good to go else it makes you regret your actions. 

Remember, the key to escape from the dilemma of emotions is not to even give it a chance to invade your brain. Until your emotions control you, you cannot outgrow the previous version of yourself. Consider the difficult situations as an opportunity to reshape you into an unapologetically strong, courageous, and wise person.

2. Enroll yourselves in group activities/ anything you love:

 According to experts, facing reality is the toughest challenge of all. However, involving yourself in conversations and gatherings with people can help alleviate some of the burden. If you're fortunate enough to have a good listener as a friend, partner, or family member, sharing your struggles with them can also make you feel better. 

In this scenario, having less time to spend alone can reduce negative and self-critical thoughts. Your attention will begin to focus on the ordinary lives of those around you. Additionally, you may discover stories of personal struggles from others that you can relate to.

3. The Convincing Story:

From my real-time experience with getting off past, I encountered the greatest narrative power of my remembrances. Believe me, it is a sign of them invading your future. Often we might be trapped under its narration and the convincing story it beholds. It weaves a tapestry of emotions at the cost of your emotionally weak nature. It lets you regret your past and assures you a promising life if you hadn't done that regretful thing.

I have a different way of handling this situation. As an adult, getting rid of my dreadful past is always a challenge. But I never let them pull me down and shatter me entirely. You can adopt this technique for handling such situations too and the key to mastering the technique is to avoid exaggerating much of that dilemma. 

Firstly, make sure that you create a stable mindset whenever these memories flash into your mind. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that everything is under control. Erase the hardest part and relish your good moments of the past. Tell yourself that it's all for good and promise not to hurt yourself again. 

Remember, each time you worry not only are you hurting yourself but also you are snatching away the future opportunity of good times getting close by. Don't you want the happiest version of yourself enjoying life on Earth, mastering things on your to-do lists, and sharing moments of joy with an amazing community of lovely people?. Just think about it?

4.  The Buddhist Way of fighting suffer:

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Buddhism is a religion that solely revolves around following the principles of the Lord Buddha which are being righteous to humankind, harming no life on Earth, loving oneself even at the worst, and attaining inner wisdom by mastering the power of meditation and mindfulness( which involves paying attention to the present moment). Through Buddhism, you can awaken your inner spirituality and attain your true potential by mastering yourself.

 Jalal al-Din Rumi[Islam], one of the most famous and wisest Persian writers of the ancient world man-kind has ever known stated:

The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.

Isn't that a wise saying? Only when you know yourself inside-out, can you find a solution to your troubles. 

According to Buddhism, the true sense of suffering comes from desires and expectations. It also teaches that inner suffering can be overcome by adopting certain habits of acceptance and mental practices.

The Four Noble truths of Buddhism are:

1. Suffering is inevitable.
2. Seeking the path of enlightenment through identifying the root cause of suffering: desires and expectations.
3. Understanding that there is a possible way to end the suffering.
4. Following Buddhist principles and practices to end the suffering.

5. The Helping Hands of Therapy:

 It is well-known that when you blurt out all the inner feelings you have been bottling up for a long time to someone, you feel relieved, and a new hope sprouts. Yes, doing this might not change the fact. But it can change your entire perspective on how you feel. I have seen some people who get furious when we speak of therapy. Personally, I wouldn't force them to take a therapy session. It's up to them. I think we need to respect their opinions.

A single session of therapy would hit a massive positive change in yourself, only if you wish to cope. You feel good with someone by your side listening patiently to all your worries, plotting valuable solutions, and assuring a promising comeback. So, if you ever feel lonely, seeking the help of a therapist would be really helpful.

6. Give yourself some time:

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As the wise say, time heals and it really is. The days move faster and you get to be used to the new surroundings and nice ambiance it offers. You tend to think less likely of your bitter past moments, than sweet reminiscences. You tend to respond more naturally to those past chapters. So, in short, time builds resilience. The resilience to stand strong against the battling ground of emotions, the endurance to withstand the agony, the power to stay by your side no matter the situation, the freedom to choose the best for yourself, and the wisdom of attaining inner peace. Trust the power of timing and focus on what should be done further to progress towards attaining your goals.

7. Divert your mind in learning a new skill:

Research shows that learning a new skill by staying motivated equals adopting a new growth mindset. As we all know, honing a new skill is not easy, and choosing the relevant stream during the initial day is necessary. The niche that you chose should be reasonable, add value to you as a person, upgrade your portfolio to the next level, and change your entire perspective to a whole new level. Most people give up too easily and find it difficult to concentrate because they don't have any answer to the 'why' question. Ask yourselves Why do you need to acquire this skill? The answer to the why should be strong enough to make your living worthwhile and not give up, to push you to a new extreme whenever you feel like giving up, and finally to add meaning to your living.

8. Build lasting moral habits:

Discipline leads to habits. Habits lead to consistency. Consistency leads to growth.

Think of good habits as the building blocks (like a Lego) of your true character, which is yourself. The more you add them the more you grow. Even a minute negative change in your habit compounds as time progresses and has the potential to destroy yourself entirely.

CONCLUSION:

Overcoming suffering and achieving a state of normality is not an easy task. However, making a conscious decision to recover can put you on the right path towards success. Take some time for yourself, develop mental strength, and understand that not everyone will sympathize with your situation. Train your mind to focus on future opportunities and exercise regularly to build healthy habits. Self-care is also important, so make sure to prioritize it. By doing these things, you can become a better person and will continue to grow. 

As you have come to the end of the article, I want to say something to you:

Believe in yourself, because you are truly amazing and your life is incredibly valuable. Remember that you are capable of achieving great things, and you have so much potential waiting to be unlocked. Keep pushing forward, because you still have a long way to go!

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