THE ART OF IGNORING PEOPLE: A REMEDY FOR NOT LOSING YOUR INNER CONFIDENCE

 How often do you feel lost? The taunts, dramas, gossip, and nuisances we encounter daily are unbearable, right? At first, we ignore them, yet they don't leave. They keep on buzzing around like bees, never-ending. How long can you withstand them? A week, a month, maybe a year? And what happens after that, is we fall into their preplanned trap of making us feel voiceless. 

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Ignore people who threaten your joy. Literally, ignore them. Say nothing. Don't invite any parts of them into your space. - Alex Elle.

Why ignore people who exude negative vibes and how do you identify their personality?

In this fantasy world, people can get access to every teeny information at their fingertips. The ease of accessibility and their desire to stay up to the latest trends have much to do with their narrowed mindset. With the lack of time for themselves in their busy schedules, people lose track of their individuality and lack control. Desperate of not knowing what to do, the anxiety builds up. It drills each nook and corner of their happiness and state of peacefulness. This lack of self-awareness can psychologically alter their ability to be nice and polite to everyone. Their version of a calm and modest self can be exchanged for a mean and vulgar creature on Earth.

Without knowing how to solve their mental trauma, they become obsessed with manipulating, controlling, and sabotaging everyone which according to them is perfect. According to them, whichever ability they wish they had or inculcated in them and see them in others, they consider themselves to be living an ideal and jovial life, which is long gone from their life. They derive pleasure in bullying, and nagging people, where jealousy and self-doubt also play their part.

 Identifying the manipulative behavior of such people is the most difficult part. They act as if they are so caring and nice to us. But if we investigate deeper, their worst mindset can give you chills.

Five Reasons For Eliminating Negative People From Your Life:

1. FREEDOM:

The last thing we would ever strive for is the freedom to be independent and mind our work peacefully. Negative people's influence can affect your freedom to choose the life you have always dreamt of and make you feel detached from the external world. You no longer feel the warmth of being yourself. You think under their spell and you move with the flow. A clear mindset requires the freedom to choose and stay under control of one's might.

2. SANITY:

When nothing around you goes as planned, the amount of stress and desperate feelings grinding your brain might be unavoidable. One might lose control over things and with time, you go crazy and you will be in a position to take up the blame for your present self. Do you know when this control becomes threatened? Not long after you take up the blame on yourself, leaving yourself in the hatred space and putting the villains on the friendly side. The condition gets even worse when self-hatredness peeps inside. You start to hate yourself more, thinking that everything has collapsed because of you. You rely on the negative people's opinion for your recovery. Moreover, they make you come to them for everything you need and try to belittle yourself inch by inch. 

3. SELF-CONFIDENCE:

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The key to exuding confidence is to put up a bold front on your inner version of this external cowardly, weak, dull-witched, and emotional self. Whoever you are and whatever you are, if you believe that you can achieve great things and keep a good repo with your inner self, everything will fall in the right place. Over the years, I personally experienced that it is myself who puts her in challenging situations, and it faces it; the other who wins it. 

4. MENTAL TRAUMA:

With all your collapsed state, and delusions the amount of mental trauma that one experiences is unbearable. You hear the wailing of wolves, woes of inner fright, and the battling of unended wars. Nothing goes right when you have finally arrived at a conclusion that the source of all these lies within yourself.

5. DEPRESSION:

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By eliminating negative people from your life you are not only promising yourself a stress-free life but also an effective way of not losing yourself through the course of dealing with them. One of the most specific attributes of a negative person is that they often find fault in everything. They only focus on the dark side instead of appreciating the countless benefits that the other side offers. Their behavior is highly contagious and prolonged exposure to the outside environment with them may not leave in a good place. You start to worry about little things that stayed out of your focus before. You cannot spot the negative character nuances that bumped into your life lately, but believe me the worst phase of anything is about to begin. Constant depression, stress, and insomnia are some of the external manifestations of this highly contagious disease caused by negative-minded threateners.

HOW TO IDENTIFY A NEGATIVE PERSON? COMMON HABITS OF A NEGATIVE PERSON:

1. Negative-minded people often blabber about the worst aspects of their lives/ almost anything around them. 

2. They spread negativity through the way they speak, do their chores, mind their regular activities, and all.

3. They are great procrastinators and literally hate doing cheerful activities.

4. They complain always.

5. They avoid participating in group activities and instead appreciate working on their own.

6. They drain the energy of the outsiders with their negative outbursts of speech.

HOW TO SECURE YOURSELF FROM THE NAYSAYERS:

Living in this world, we need to find a way to secure ourselves from various troublesome things. Don't we? Studies show that surrounding yourself with people who promote a productive lifestyle and get glued to their potential commitments has a direct positive influence on your daily lifestyle.

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 Those positive-minded people have the potential to stir up the lost life in themselves by making themselves find a new purpose and adding meaning to their lives. The positive impact can make you feel energized, that you can do whatever you aspire. Contrary to the positive influence, negative influence can turn your life into a whole nightmare. Imagine yourself being stuck around the negative environment of all those naysayers. 

If you are experiencing it daily, well then the below steps might help you:

1. Avoid deep conversation:

Some people live in an extremely negative environment where it is not quite possible to ignore everyone. Ignoring any person might be rude and repeating that repeatedly might raise any worrisome thoughts in them. And again, if someone treats us in such a way that we don't deserve, so are the people around us no matter what their true nature or attitude is. But, involving in deep conversations with them doesn't sound to leave a positive impact either. In such situations, what you can do is to avoid them politely in such a way that doesn't affect their overall mood.

Some of how you can master this is by cutting the conversation off with a sarcastic comment without leaving a negative view on them, acting like you got a call or an important message from your boss, acting less to their speech, ending the convo with an intriguing question for them to think, and all.

2. Make an excuse to leave:

Making excuses can actually make them believe that something necessary is lined up on your daily chores. Find a reasonable excuse rather than a rational one so that you can justify the scenario. Leaving countless excuses always can also lead you into trouble. Consider using different techniques on different occasions and try to be reasonable.

3. Pretend like you never saw them:

The best way to ignore any chat is to avoid seeing them. The same works with people too. As an introvert, it is really hard for me to ignore people whom I know, but this technique is my life-saver. Still, I maintain a conscious eye on my surroundings; if I find myself troubled, I just stay invisible.

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 If the person spots me accidentally, I try to pretend as if I haven't seen them. This can be a valid reason and could never be bothered by this statement.

4. Override the conversation with your positive thoughts :

When they are so busy instilling their negative thoughts and making them get through your brain, why don't you shut them with your positivity? We have to be very careful in these scenarios. Sometimes, the intensity of negativity goes up drastically making you inherit their behavioral traits such as replying negatively to them. These situations not only make you lose your individuality but also question your intellectual as well as physical ability to handle different things. You could end up being tasted at a very low point in your entire life.

A few days back, I wrote some words on our College's digital board as asked by our principal sir. While passing back a friend of mine commented that my handwriting was not good. That wasn't the time when she spoke to me like that. At that point, each of her minute activities that drove me crazy previously flashed into my mind. I could have confronted her negative behavior in front of everyone directly by yelling at her. But I know it wasn't the right time. I don't want to trouble her. Instead, I stayed silent and walked away. Confront their actions privately in a polite way so that they will try to understand and not get furious. Ignoring them always paves the way for them to take you for granted.

5. Make yourself look busy:

Making yourself busy not only secludes you from negative-minded people but also grantshappenshe opportunity to reach your full potential and go after your dreams. Mind your business, focus on yourself, and instill positive values in yourself. 

6. Practice mindfulness:

Being aware of your surroundings gives you a better perspective of who you are and what you are capable of. Practicing mindfulness also promotes better decision-making and problem-solving skills. Promote your mental health by doing mindful exercises such as meditation, walking, and others. 

7. Strengthen your self-love through self-talk/ journaling:

The life we live is all a maze and when you truly acknowledge the powerful presence of your amazing self, you enjoy life like anything. I stress this point in all of my blogs because I believe that having a good rapport with yourself rebuilds you as a better person who aims to pacify and go along with the flow of life. Having a sheer dedication to spend some quality time with yourself stresses the importance of solitude because that's how great inventions are born. You tend to introspect more and understand yourself to a whole new level. This helps you defend yourself from the unenthusiastic views of your peers. 

Journaling every day helps you relive the moments you have had that day and penning it down can make you feel relieved from gloomy happenings and boosts you with positive comments. You cannot believe the amount of positivity that your genuine self offers you when you actually listen to it.

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Embrace yourself always no matter what happens!!

THANK YOU.....